Positive and negative being single

Today, more ladies are single than any time in recent times, which is something generally new as far as I can tell. Having a spouse is no more thought to be important, nor even attractive in more cases. What’s changed? Societies contrast, yet cutting edge American culture by and large acknowledges a mixed bag of ways of life that were unbelievable a half century ago.

As I see it, there are both focal points and shortcomings of being single. Some are self-evident, and all around reported in books and articles.

Isn’t it funny how some life experiences can be both rewarding and challenging? I try hard to view life from a positive perspective. I’m not always successful, but I try.

As a single woman it is so easy to focus on the negative aspects of being single, but there is always another side to every story. I’ve learned for every negative there is a positive, so below are my top lists of the best AND the worst things about being single.

These are in no particular order, so let’s just start with the obvious.

 

1)            Me Time

Me Time simply means you can do whatever makes your heart’s content.  As singles, we have ‘me time’ all the time.

The Worst thing about ‘me time’ is you have ‘me time’ all the time.   While all the aforementioned benefits of ‘me time’ are true, too much of a good thing can sometimes be a drag. It’s true, as singles we long for companionship, but many times loneliness are based on our perspective.

2)            Dating

The Best thing about dating is spending time with a guy you’re interested in and whose interested in you.  Getting to know him and allowing him to get to know you can be a bit stressful, but it can also be fun and exciting.

The Worst thing about dating is when it doesn’t work out. You know the moment you realize he is not the one. However,r at some point it becomes quite evident that you two are not a match. Even worse, you think he’s the one and you never hear from him again. You question what went wrong. “Was it something I said or did? What could I have done differently?” Yeah, dating can be brutal.

There are some good points made here, in spite of the fact that others are generally far from being obviously true. Playing devil’s advocate, I might point out that singles are disadvantaged with respect to social engagements among their wedded couple friends. Who wants to be a fifth wheel? Keeping in mind the really autonomous woman may have additional time and flexibility, she likewise has nobody to deal with her when she’s down with the flu, nobody to make repairs around the house, and frequently no date on a Saturday night – also New Year’s Eve!