The statistics are shocking. Right now in the United States, over 50% of all marriages are ending in divorce. We can’t help but wonder what happened to change marriage success rates so drastically over the past few decades. This might be because of many reasons but still The secret to maintaining a marriage is to find out the reasons why the relationship isn’t the satisfying experience it could be and fix them. Listed below are ten of the major reasons marriages fail:
1. When trust and understanding are no longer part of a marriage, it’s headed for failure. Things like this occur when partners are too stubborn to try and see things from the perspective of their mates. Compromise is a necessary commodity.
2. Have you ever heard yourself accusing your spouse of having changed from the person you originally married? All of us grow and change throughout life based on our experiences. If you feel your spouse has changed, stop and consider why that has happened.
3. If you start thinking that being married to someone else would make you happier, you’re asking for disaster. About 90% of marriages that end do so because one or both spouses have been unfaithful. In truth, most of themselves unable to be happy in any kind of relationship due to the fact that they aren’t willing to make the commitment to live with both bad and good.
4. The Bible tells us that when we marry we are united into one body. This applies to our minds as well. If you start thinking about having things €your way€ or €my way€ instead of €our way€, your marriage is headed for troubled waters.
5. If sex is boring or non-existent, soon the marriage will be, too. People who have sexual relations prior to marriage often find themselves getting bored with their partner before too long. The concept of keeping yourself for marriage wasn’t far off base. Otherwise, you’d better be prepared to do whatever it takes to keep your sexual interest alive.
6. Too many lies can destroy a marriage. People need to feel that they spouses are being honest with them. Distrust causes major rifts in many relationships.
7. Playing the fault game is also detrimental to harmony. If you spend more time trying to blame each other for your problems than you do in trying to work things out, there’s nowhere to go but down.
8. One partner excluding the other from major parts of their life will end up killing the relationship. The other spouse will feel neglected and as if they aren’t really a part of a union any longer. No matter how busy you are, you need to spend quality time with each other.
9. Feelings that their spouse is never there when they need him or her can lead to discord. If the two of you aren’t each others’ support system, then you need to start working on it.
10. Deciding that you’re tired of dealing with all the problems in your marriage can be equated with throwing in the towel for good. Almost all problems can be worked out if you’re willing to make the effort. Giving up will get you nowhere but divorced.